- Actually educate yourself about the issues. You are perfectly capable of educating yourself, it is your own responsibility, so do so, and don’t assume that you are already an expert. Keep up with current events involving the issues and don’t be afraid to ask questions, although be aware of how you ask them.
- Show your support through action. Attend events or volunteer for events or help organize them or anything. Just be involved. Don’t be all talk.
- Actively challenge stereotypes that people may have about different groups, including derogatory remarks and jokes. Remember that your silence condones and reinforces injustice. Confront oppressive statements and structures as well as the assumptions behind them.
- Examine the effect different identities and experiences have on people’s lives and development. Identify how race, religion, class and ability intersect with sexual orientation, sex and gender identity, and how multiple identities shape our lives. Don’t conflate different experiences of oppression. Remember that being targeted in one area does not mean that you know what it is like to be targeted in another area.
- Respect how people choose to identify themselves. In terms of name, identity and pronouns. If you don’t know how to identify a particular person, it’s ok to ask what they prefer in a respectful manner.
- DON’T TOKENIZE OR PATRONIZE individuals from different groups. Don’t ask or assume one member of a particular group to speak for all people in that group.
- Don’t speak for a group, even if you are in it, and especially if you are not. Speak from your own experiences only. It’s ok to say if you don’t know the answer to something. Having a friend in a particular group is not “proof” that you are an ally, and does not make you an expert on those experiences. “But my best friend is black/gay/etc.etc.etc.” No. Stop that.
- DON’T SPEAK FOR A GROUP - help make room so they can speak for themselves. Offer your support, listen to what they want, need, and are trying to do, and help them do it. Never assume that you know what’s best for a group that you are not a part of.
- Expect to make mistakes. We all do. Learn from them and keep trying.
- Accept your status in a privileged group, even as an ally. By standing up for groups that you’re not a part of that oppressed group and experiencing institutional oppression. Trying to downplay your privileges, or feeling guilty for them, won’t help anyone. Instead, accept your privilege and use it to help provide a voice and social power for people who might otherwise not have an access to those things.
- Prepare yourself for a journey of change and growth that will come from learning to be an ally. This can be a painful and enlightening process that will help you know yourself better. However, it can be hard to acknowledge both areas where you are oppressed and areas where you hold privilege. Be open to criticism.
- Confront your own fears, memories and bad feelings about members of a particular group. Recall and release those feelings, therefore diminishing their hold on you. Examine and be aware of your own baggage. Challenge the biases, prejudices, and stereotypes that you learned from society.
- Don’t assume that you know what a particular group is about. Don’t assume that all members are the same or that there is only one way to be a member of that group. Acknowledge and celebrate diversity within communities. Each person is an expert on their own experiences. Treat everyone with respect and as individuals.
- Encourage and allow disagreement. Issues about any oppressed group are often highly charged an confusing. If there isn’t some disagreement, it probably means that people are tuned out or hiding their real feelings. Keep disagreements and discussion focused on principles and issues rather than on individual people, and keep disagreement respectful.
- And above all else, listen. learn. respect. and help others to do the same, in order for everyone to understand and appreciate each other for all their unique qualities that are a part of who they are.
If a girl is to do the same superman thing where he takes off his disguise, we just look pervy. Not the same effect
First of all: bullshit.
Secondly: If you are not doing the Linda Carter spin, then you’re doing it wrong.
how did you do that so smoothly?
thats some broadway musical shit
But seriously, I think I love you.